There are many competent document preparation companies out there. However, these companies do not provide legal advice and cannot advise you of your rights. For example, many men seek to modify their child support and alimony and have a document preparation company prepare the paperwork for them. Often these men are outraged when their child support and alimony are actually increased! The document preparation companies fail to provide the necessary legal advice to ensure that you do not shoot yourself in the foot at court. Consult with an attorney regarding the law and your rights in a divorce.
Archive for January, 2006
Is It Wise to Use a Document Preparation Company to File Your Divorce?
Tuesday, January 31st, 2006Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog Tips
Sunday, January 29th, 2006This is the second in a series of divorce advice articles provided by the Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog. This divorce advice is provided to expose the inherent flaws and biases in the law and enable men to work within the system to divorce successfully. We provide advice and guidance for men facing divorce to enable them to plan early and avoid the typical pitfalls of divorce court.
Divorce Tips For Men
When a divorce is imminent, most men believe that it is time to start a war and are as aggressive as possible. This is a terrible divorce strategy. Civility costs nothing and can save you thousands of dollars.
What can you do to be civil in your divorce? Tell your wife that you intend to file for divorce before she hears it from someone else. Ensure that you and your attorney always show the utmost considertion for your wife. For example, rather than send a process server out to your wife’s work or home, consider having your attorney make arrangements to have your wife served at her convenience.
Why not take an aggressive approach in your divorce?
1. Women are emotional. If you cross a woman, it is likely that she will go out and hire the most expensive lawyer in town and fight over each and every little issue possible.
2. If your wife is angry and contests each divorce issue, you will have a huge lawyer bill.
3. The longer the divorce process drags out, the worse off you will be.
4. If you have children, you will be required to see and speak to your wife for the rest of your life. Being aggressive in your divorce may create years of hell dealing with a bitter and nasty wife.
Being civil and considerate is the most effective approach to resolve your divorce. Keep in mind that the faster your divorce is over, the faster you will be rid of your wife!
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Divorce Issues: Why Are There So Many Angry Divorced Men?
Saturday, January 28th, 2006There are many angry divorced men out there. Why are they so angry? Each man will give you a different song and dance, but basically they each believe that the system is unfair and biased. That may be somewhat true, but if you look at each and every one of these stories, you will see a common theme. In general, men do not prepare for divorce. Most men are a deer in the headlights when they are served divorce papers. (Yes, 85% of divorces are filed by women.) Many men “check out” of their marriage– using the garage as the living room, having an affair, or working excessively. Often these men do not even know a divorce is coming. Women on the other hand, prepare for divorce. They learn the law and seek to take advantage of each caveat of the law. Therefore, by the time a man is served, he is generally out of the race.
Men should plan early for divorce
What can a man do to ensure that he does not become the next statistic? Educate yourself regarding the law and prepare for divorce with a viable plan. Consider purchasing SecretDivorce to assist you in planning for divorce. Use the tricks and techniques of experts to ensure that you execute your plan. Do not count on a lawyer to make your case. As you will learn with SecretDivorce, you will be required to make changes in your life prior to telling your Wife you wish to divorce. SecretDivorce techniques reduce child support and alimony payments, increase your child custody, and protect assets. Do not become another angry man because you failed to prepare.
Can Children Thrive After Divorce?
Thursday, January 26th, 2006In short, the answer is yes. Children can thrive after divorce. To help your children cope with divorce, fathers should continue to maintain significant contact with their children. On days when a parent does not see a child, there should be telephonic contact at a certain time each day such as after school, after dinner, or before bed. Fathers should live within close proximity of Mom’s house and the children’s school. Fathers should attend school activities and request that all school information be forwarded to their address as well as Moms. Children thrive when parents set aside their differences to work together to co-parent. Consider having joint birthday parties, consulting on Christmas gifts, and laying down the law together. If you and your spouse have trouble co-parenting, seek counseling. It is an excellent idea to have a counselor that you can see from time to time as issues arise.
Should You Divorce Your Spouse?
Tuesday, January 24th, 2006This is a question a lawyer should not answer. If you consult with a lawyer and he promotes divorce, he may not have your best interest at heart, but rather his own pocketbook. If you feel like you need help making the choice to stay in your marriage or divorce, consult with a therapist. A lawyer can and should advise you what is in your financial best interest, but matters of the heart are better left up to you. If you are considering divorce, you should learn how to prepare for a divorce so that you are not caught off guard. Educating yourself and learning how to protect yourself under any circumstance is always advisable. Many individuals are reluctant to consult with a lawyer because they believe that they are committing to divorce. Educating yourself and learning how to prepare in the event of divorce should be seen as a insurance policy in the event that your marriage ends in divorce.
Does It Matter Who Files Divorce Papers First?
Tuesday, January 24th, 2006Generally, it does not matter which parties files first in divorce court. That being said, it is important which party is most prepared for the divorce process at the time of filing. In most states, the filing of a summons and complaint in divorce court will put in place automatic restraining orders which shall prevent insurance policies from being canceled and property from being transferred. Additionally, the court will often look at the status quo of the parties’ income, lifestyle, and time spent with children at the time of the filing to put temporary orders in place. Therefore, it does not matter which party files the initial divorce papers, but only that you are prepared at the time your spouse files.
Successful Divorce Planning For Men Divorce Blog Tips
Sunday, January 22nd, 2006This the first in a series of divorce advice articles provided by the Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog. This divorce advice is provided to expose the inherent flaws and biases in the law and enable men to work within the system to divorce successfully. We provide advice and guidance for men facing divorce to enable them to plan early and avoid the typical pitfalls of divorce court.
Divorce Tips For Men
Stop working overtime! Child support and alimony are based upon a number of factors, the most important being your income. Your income is not just your salary, but any overtime that you work. Why work overtime if you know half of it will end up in your wife’s pocket and you may be paying support for decades based on that overtime pay? If divorce is even a possibility in your future, stop working those extra hours and start spending that time doing something you enjoy such as spending time with your kids. Certainly it is worth a short sacrifice to reduce your future support payments for years to come. If you can’t afford to live without the overtime pay, consider taking money from your savings or getting a home equity line of credit. You will not regret dipping into your savings for six months or so once you consider the cost of working those overtime hours on your future support payments.
Stop working overtime! Child support and alimony are based upon a number of factors, the most important being your income. Your income is not just your salary, but any overtime that you work. Why work overtime if you know half of it will end up in your wife’s pocket and you may be paying support for decades based on that overtime pay? If divorce is even a possibility in your future, stop working those extra hours and start spending that time doing something you enjoy such as spending time with your kids. Certainly it is worth a short sacrifice to reduce your future support payments for years to come. If you can’t afford to live without the overtime pay, consider taking money from your savings or getting a home equity line of credit. You will not regret dipping into your savings for six months or so once you consider the cost of working those overtime hours on your future support payments.
Divorce Regrets
Friday, January 20th, 2006The Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog is pleased to present the first in a series of real life stories of men living through divorce. In each case, we will explore how a particular man handled his divorce. We hope that men will learn from the examples presented and gain valuable insight from the divorce advice presented.
A Man’s Divorce Regrets: Little Child Custody and High Child Support and Alimony Payments
Chris had spent years in an unhappy marriage for the sake of his kids. Chris’ wife was so controlling and obnoxious, he dreaded coming home at night. Chris’ wife eventually filed for divorce with the most expensive lawyer in town. He telephoned a few lawyers, but thought that the retainers were too high. After years and years of dealing with his wife, Chris did not want any further confrontation. He believed that his wife would get custody of the kids, that he would be required to move out of the family house, and pay child support and alimony equal to what he was contributing to the household during the marriage. Chris believed that paying high support payments would benefit his kids. He met with his wife’s attorney and agreed to his wife’s terms and within two months of the divorce papers being filed, Chris was out of the house visiting with the kids on alternate weekends.
Fast forward a year, and Chris was living in a one bedroom apartment unable to afford a room for the kids. He wanted to have the kids over more often, but his wife would not allow it because he did not have a room for them to sleep in. Chris was having trouble paying for food on the weekends that the kids visited. He was unable to go out with his buddies very often because money was very tight. When Chris dropped off the kids, he would often see his wife’s new boyfriend staying in what was once his house with his kids. He became more and more bitter regretting his decision not to contest the divorce.
The Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog advice:
- Chris’ most serious mistake was that he did not educate himself regarding divorce law. Chris should have visited with a divorce lawyer for a free consultation. If Chris had spoken to a lawyer, he would have learned that joint custody is becoming more and more prevalent.
- A lawyer would have advised Chris on the proper amount of child support and alimony. Chris should not have agreed to pay any additional support, but he could have always given his wife additional monies if he saw fit or spent the money on the children.
- Chris also should have sought some of the equity in the family house in the divorce. Although it is nice to keep the kids in the house, Chris was unable to afford a room for his children. Chris’ children would have been more comfortable if they had their own room at Chris’ residence.
- Even after receiving some divorce advice from an attorney, if Chris and his wife agreed on a divorce settlement, Chris should have taken the papers to an attorney and paid for an hour of the attorney’s time to review the divorce agreement. Protect yourself by educating yourself early before it is too late.
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Thursday, January 19th, 2006Protect Your Property in a Divorce
SecretDivorce teaches you how to protect your property in a divorce. We have all heard the horror stories of divorced men who have been required to hand over their house, kids, and the majority of his future earnings to their wife. SecretDivorce teaches you how to plan early to ensure that you protect your property. Learn the divorce advice that judges and lawyers know.
Determine What You Have To Lose in a Divorce
SecretDivorce teaches you what to expect from the divorce process. Step by step, SecretDivorce walks you through the process. The first step to protecting your assets is to determine what you have to lose. Generally, all property acquired during the marriage except that acquired by gift, inheritance, or separate property obtained before the marriage is marital property. Marital property includes the following: Real estate, vehicles, pensions, 401(k), IRA, profit sharing, stock options, annuities, insurance policies, CDs, stocks and bonds, and business entities. Personal items, pets, and even airline miles are also considered.
Use the Secret Divorce Marital Balance Sheet To Determine How You Would Fare Today in a Divorce
After you have determined what is marital property, use the Marital Balance Sheet in the SecretDivorce Workbook to consider how you and your wife will divide your marital property. The Marital Balance Sheet is an easy to use tool used by attorneys and judges. Once you have determined what you have to lose in a divorce, the next step is to determine how you can change the bottom line.
SecretDivorce Has Hundreds of Divorce Tricks and Techniques
SecretDivorce contains hundreds of trick and techniques that will help you protect your assets. The key to SecretDivorce is timing. Planning before your wife even considers divorce is essential to obtain the best results. Advice also includes how to reduce your alimony and child support payments as well as how to get the custody order that you want. Using the Secret Divorce techniques will save you thousands of dollars guaranteed.
Secret Divorce Forums Allow You to Discuss Your Divorce Plans with Others Men Just Like You
Secret Divorce Forums provide a venue for you to discuss your divorce plans with other men just like you. Learn more about divorce planning by reading the stories of other men’s successes and failures. Ask questions in the Forums and get advice from people that have walked in your shoes. Read how other men have protected their assets before they started the divorce process.
Educate Yourself Today Before You Become a Statistic
The purchase of SecretDivorce is not a commitment to divorce, but rather an insurance policy if your marriage ends in divorce. Learn the tricks that woman use to retain the family residence, take your retirement, and gain huge child and spousal support awards. Educate yourself and begin to follow the divorce advice to ensure that your assets are protected. Don’t let your wife compromise your financial future.
