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After deciding to divorce, many men are asked by their wives to attend marriage counseling. We are often asked if we believe they should attend. And generally the answer is yes.

First and foremost, men need time to prepare for divorce. If you have not executed all of your plans before your wife requests your attendance at divorce counseling, you will be required to go to these counseling sessions until you have completed your divorce planning. Why not just say no? When a wife recognizes that a marriage is over, she will seek to protect herself and secure her future. Basically this means that she will do everything in her power to see that she obtains high child support and alimony awards, protects her custodial rights to her children, and retain as much of the marital assets as possible.

Once you have executed all of your divorce plans, you will wish to remain as civil and amicable with your wife as possible. There is nothing worse that a bitter wife! Once you are ready to divorce, use the marriage counseling as a polite method of explaining that your relationship cannot continue. This counseling should also strive to discuss the possibility to moving forward to co-parent children and maintain a good relationship for the kids. Civility is free and often significantly reduces attorney’s fees and costs in a divorce. A bitter wife will fight over each and every issue in the divorce court.

Finally, marriage counseling will allow you to know in your heart that you have given your marriage that final shot. You will not have to second guess yourself in the middle of the night after you have tried everything.

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If you are paying support for a child that is not yours, you have one more chance to correct this wrong. California has become the eleventh state in the country to enact legislation for men who have wrongly been pegged as the father of a child and ordered to pay support for that child.

If you have an order to pay child support that was entered by default, not allowing you to obtain genetic testing, the court will allow your order to be set aside to determine if you are the biological father of the child. If the testing determines that you are not the biological father, you will no longer be required to pay child support.

If this issue applies to you, do not delay. This law is only effective until October 2006.

The simple answer is no. Hiding money is usually detectable with a decent forensic accountant. Therefore, if you hide money you run the risk of getting caught and making the court question of your integrity and veracity.

To many men this advice does not concern them. But it should concern you. In all states, the court has significant discretion to determine support issues, division of assets, and attorneys fees. Rest assured that if the court learns that you have hidden assets that you will end up with the short end of the stick on each and every issue before the court.

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Recent studies suggest that 40% of women withhold children from their father during a divorce. If this situation occurs, it is important that you confront it immediately. If you do not document the problem, your wife will argue that you did not want or attempt to visit with your kids.

If you do not have a custody order, obtain a temporary order immedatiely. Once you have a custody order, you must enforce it. Enforcement may require police enforcement for pick up of your children, reporting violations of court orders to law enforcement, and contempt actions.

It is important to document all communication with your wife. If your wife is bad mouthing you to the children and they are telling you things that their mother has said, it is imperative to take them to a counselor to allow them to deal with the conflict and allow their voices are documented.

Consult with an attorney regarding your matter. It may be possible to obtain full custody if you can show that your wife continually withholds the children from you and that you would be the parent better able to share the children.

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This is a common question that men ask. Simply, the answer is: possibly.

If you are in a community property state, all property acquired during marriage is community property and each spouse owns a one-half interest in all such property. Therefore, your wife will have an interest in your retirement if it was earned during the marriage. Of course, you can choose to negotiate with other assets and for example, give your wife the equity in the house and keep your retirement.

In an equitable distribution state, all property acquired during the marriage is marital property and will be divided equitably by the court. Therefore, the court has the authority to divide your retirement or to assign other assets to your wife and allow you to maintain your retirement.

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The Secret Divorce Forums provide men insight into the Secret Divorce tricks and techniques and provide real life examples from men who have planned well and successfully divorced. The Secret Divorce Forums have categories regarding child custody, protecting assets, as well as child support and alimony. The Forums allow men considering divorce excellent advice from real life experience of others.

It is essential that men considering divorce educate themselves and prepare for divorce early. The Secret Divorce Forums create a community of men all of whom have recently considered or been involved in a divorce to bounce idea off of each other and provide one another support and guidance.

Is there a universal child support and alimony calculator? Simply, the answer is no. The federal government requires that all states have child support guidelines. Many states use computer programs which we call calculators. If your state does not have a calculator, there is a formula which is set forth in your state’s guideline. Some states also include alimony or spousal support in the calculators.

It is important to understand that each state has deviations from the guideline child support. In many states where the timeshare or percentage of time with the children is not included within the guideline, joint custody can be a deviation from guideline support. In simple terms, a deviation allows the court to reduce child support. Therefore, in most states, joint child custody will significantly reduce your child support obligation.

Secret Divorce teaches techniques to reduce your child support and alimony. It is imperative that you understand your state’s guideline and that you plan early to reduce your child support and alimony.

The simple answer is yes. Secret Divorce teaches you how to prevent you wife from retaining the most aggressive divorce attorney in town. Ensuring that your spouse does not retain the most litigious attorney in your area may allow you to settle your case prior to going to trial or at least narrow the issues in your matter- both significantly reducing your attorneys fees by thousands of dollars. Don’t be caught off guard: Educate yourself and plan for a successful divorce today.

60% of men - and 40% of women will have at least one extramarital affair.

The 1987 Shere Hite’s survey of women found that 70% of women married five years or more had had an extramarital affair.

The 1980 Hite Report on Male Sexuality found that 72% of men married two years or more had had an extramarital affair.

Approximately 15% of women and 25% of men have more than four affairs during their married lives.

Fewer than 10% of people having affairs divorce their spouse and marry their lover (of which 75% of these marriages end in divorce).

Affairs, infidelity, cheating, being unfaithful, no matter what you call it, nobody wants to be on the ignorant end. Affairs are not the top reason for divorce but they are the worst reason. This is compounded by the fact that not only do you have to come to terms with the fact that your wife was cheating, you will probably now have to keep her in the lifestyle to which she has become accustomed.

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In a recent study, five years after divorce, after most men and women have remarried, women’s household incomes increased more from pre-divorce levels than those of their ex-husbands.

In ‘Seven Myths of Divorce’, by Dr Peter Orli states that generally, women are more satisfied with their divorce settlements than men, and this satisfaction remains stable over time.

…no wonder over 70% of divorces are initiated by the women.

Your future income could be lost to huge alimony and child support payments and when divorce papers hit you it’s too late to change the outcome.

If you are a father, how would you feel about being provided the times and dates of when you can visit with your child.

Consider Child Custody, Alimony (spousal support), Child Support, and loss of your assets to your wife before you file for divorce. Secret divorce preparation for men will allow you to sleep at night.