After deciding to divorce, many men are asked by their wives to attend marriage counseling. We are often asked if we believe they should attend. And generally the answer is yes.
First and foremost, men need time to prepare for divorce. If you have not executed all of your plans before your wife requests your attendance at divorce counseling, you will be required to go to these counseling sessions until you have completed your divorce planning. Why not just say no? When a wife recognizes that a marriage is over, she will seek to protect herself and secure her future. Basically this means that she will do everything in her power to see that she obtains high child support and alimony awards, protects her custodial rights to her children, and retain as much of the marital assets as possible.
Once you have executed all of your divorce plans, you will wish to remain as civil and amicable with your wife as possible. There is nothing worse that a bitter wife! Once you are ready to divorce, use the marriage counseling as a polite method of explaining that your relationship cannot continue. This counseling should also strive to discuss the possibility to moving forward to co-parent children and maintain a good relationship for the kids. Civility is free and often significantly reduces attorney’s fees and costs in a divorce. A bitter wife will fight over each and every issue in the divorce court.
Finally, marriage counseling will allow you to know in your heart that you have given your marriage that final shot. You will not have to second guess yourself in the middle of the night after you have tried everything.
Secret Divorce teaches you how to plan for your divorce successfully, execute your plans while still married, and obtain a quick settlement of your case.