There are many competent document preparation companies out there.  However, these companies do not provide legal advice and cannot advise you of your rights.  For example, many men seek to modify their child support and alimony and have a document preparation company prepare the paperwork for them.  Often these men are outraged when their child support and alimony are actually increased!  The document preparation companies fail to provide the necessary legal advice to ensure that you do not shoot yourself in the foot at court.  Consult with an attorney regarding the law and your rights in a divorce.

There are many angry divorced men out there.  Why are they so angry?  Each man will give you a different song and dance, but basically they each believe that the system is unfair and biased.  That may be somewhat true, but if you look at each and every one of these stories, you will see a common theme.  In general, men do not prepare for divorce.  Most men are a deer in the headlights when they are served divorce papers.  (Yes, 85% of divorces are filed by women.)  Many men “check out” of their marriage– using the garage as the living room, having an affair, or working excessively. Often these men do not even know a divorce is  coming.  Women on the other hand, prepare for divorce.  They learn the law and seek to take advantage of each caveat of the law.  Therefore, by the time a man is served, he is generally out of the race.

Men should plan early for divorce

What can a man do to ensure that he does not become the next statistic?  Educate yourself regarding the law and prepare for divorce with a viable plan.  Consider purchasing SecretDivorce to assist you in planning for divorce.  Use the tricks and techniques of experts to ensure that you execute your plan.  Do not count on a lawyer to make your case.  As you will learn with SecretDivorce, you will be required to make changes in your life prior to telling your Wife you wish to divorce. SecretDivorce techniques reduce child support and alimony payments, increase your child custody, and protect assets. Do not become another angry man because you failed to prepare.  

Generally, it does not matter which parties files first in divorce court.  That being said, it is important which party is most prepared for the divorce process at the time of filing.  In most states, the filing of a summons and complaint in divorce court will put in place automatic restraining orders which shall prevent insurance policies from being canceled and property from being transferred. Additionally, the court will often look at the status quo of the parties’ income, lifestyle, and time spent with children at the time of the filing to put temporary orders in place.  Therefore, it does not matter which party files the initial divorce papers, but only that you are prepared at the time your spouse files.