This is the second in a series of divorce advice articles provided by the Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog. This divorce advice is provided to expose the inherent flaws and biases in the law and enable men to work within the system to divorce successfully. We provide advice and guidance for men facing divorce to enable them to plan early and avoid the typical pitfalls of divorce court.

Divorce Tips For Men

When a divorce is imminent, most men believe that it is time to start a war and are as aggressive as possible. This is a terrible divorce strategy. Civility costs nothing and can save you thousands of dollars. 

What can you do to be civil in your divorce?  Tell your wife that you intend to file for divorce before she hears it from someone else.  Ensure that you and your attorney always show the utmost considertion for your wife.  For example, rather than send a process server out to your wife’s work or home, consider having your attorney make arrangements to have your wife served at her convenience. 

Why not take an aggressive approach in your divorce?

1. Women are emotional. If you cross a woman, it is likely that she will go out and hire the most expensive lawyer in town and fight over each and every little issue possible.         

2. If your wife is angry and contests each divorce issue, you will have a huge lawyer bill.

3. The longer the divorce process drags out, the worse off you will be.

4. If you have children, you will be required to see and speak to your wife for the rest of your life. Being aggressive in your divorce may create years of hell dealing with a bitter and nasty wife.

Being civil and considerate is the most effective approach to resolve your divorce. Keep in mind that the faster your divorce is over, the faster you will be rid of your wife!         

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This the first in a series of divorce advice articles provided by the Successful Divorce Planning for Men Divorce Blog. This divorce advice is provided to expose the inherent flaws and biases in the law and enable men to work within the system to divorce successfully. We provide advice and guidance for men facing divorce to enable them to plan early and avoid the typical pitfalls of divorce court.

Divorce Tips For Men

Stop working overtime! Child support and alimony are based upon a number of factors, the most important being your income. Your income is not just your salary, but any overtime that you work. Why work overtime if you know half of it will end up in your wife’s pocket and you may be paying support for decades based on that overtime pay? If divorce is even a possibility in your future, stop working those extra hours and start spending that time doing something you enjoy such as spending time with your kids. Certainly it is worth a short sacrifice to reduce your future support payments for years to come. If you can’t afford to live without the overtime pay, consider taking money from your savings or getting a home equity line of credit. You will not regret dipping into your savings for six months or so once you consider the cost of working those overtime hours on your future support payments.

Stop working overtime! Child support and alimony are based upon a number of factors, the most important being your income. Your income is not just your salary, but any overtime that you work. Why work overtime if you know half of it will end up in your wife’s pocket and you may be paying support for decades based on that overtime pay? If divorce is even a possibility in your future, stop working those extra hours and start spending that time doing something you enjoy such as spending time with your kids. Certainly it is worth a short sacrifice to reduce your future support payments for years to come. If you can’t afford to live without the overtime pay, consider taking money from your savings or getting a home equity line of credit. You will not regret dipping into your savings for six months or so once you consider the cost of working those overtime hours on your future support payments.